Wendy and the Lost Boys

Wherever I go, my dogs are right beside me. They follow me throughout the house, my constant shadows. Mostly it is comforting, sometimes it is suffocating.

"You're their Wendy," my Mom said to me today.

"What?" I asked.

"You know, their Wendy, like in Peter Pan," she offered. "They're the little lost pugs without you! They're in search of a mother."

I laughed, but there was some truth to what Mom was saying. Alfie never had much parenting. Her pug mama accidentally squished one of Alfie's siblings and so was only allowed in with her puppies when they were nursing. Waffles lived an independent life running  rampant with the other pugs at my friend Joan's. Both pugs are as impish and as mischievous as the Lost Boys. When I'm not home, they wait for me by the window, when they're not fighting over bones, knocking over trashcans, banging into each other. They seem to be in need of mothering, someone to teach them some order and discipline. Someone to give them some nurturing.

Sometimes I'm at a loss as to what my role should be with these two. I'm in search of a metaphor, a way to connect and interact with these two alien creatures in our makeshift pack. Maybe being a Wendy to some lost pugs is a place to start.

A Puzzle

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My dog is a puzzle and a shadow
A mere silhouette
A mystery, a cypher
Not at all a sure bet

I watch and I study
But she hides her full face
Then returns to my feet
Claiming her place

With a wag of her tail
A snort and a bark
She spills all her secrets
While I remain in the dark

Perhaps always a puzzle, a shadow
A mere silhoutte
But from my perspective
The most faithful of pets

I See You!

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Alfie teaches me patience. She shows me how to listen. It isn't easy, I'm a slow learner.

Before Waffles arrived, Alfie and I had settled into a routine. At two, she had started to relinquish her puppy ways. She was settling in as a lap dog, a writing dog -- at home beside me on the couch or at my feet beneath my desk. She studied me, learned my ways and mimicked my behavior. When the computer came out it was work time and she'd take her place beside me.

Introducing Waffles to the mix ignited a flame, it was like waving crack cocaine at an addict. Waffles became Alfie's shiny new toy. Raising the ante, she promised play and the potential for more food. Alfie lives her life in anticipation of the next big feast and Waffles became her plus 2 at the banquet table. Now, all she had to do was figure out how to steal Waffle's supply of snacks and treats. This leaves Alfie on high alert. She yips and barks at Waffles even when Waffles has nothing she wants. She creeps and crawls into Waffles' crate doing surveillance, checking for a hidden stash, and sometimes she stumbles on a goldmine.

I feel like I have stumbled on a hornet's nest. I dwell in a swarm of chaos. Alfie has little sense of her own body, the weight and pressure she exerts. if she wants Waffles or a bone or a toy, she goes for it and if it means leaping on your chest or your face, all 22 lbs. of her, so be it. She pants ceaselessly, she yaps, she jumps.

And, I learn patience and how to listen.

When, she was a puppy, my lessons began. She exhibited this behavior then and I would become frustrated. I'd snap or push her away and she'd come back and jump some more or worse. And, I'd want to scream. But eventually I got it. She was talking to me, she wanted something. Sometimes it was food, sometimes it was play, sometimes she was simply saying, "Look at me!" So, I learned to listen and I'd say, "I see you!" and I really tried to and it seemed to work. She grew and quieted and I thought  this is what it is like to know your dog and she wagged her curl of a tail and seemed to know me right back.

Then came Waffles and that dog disappeared and the whirling dervish took her place. And, I forgot all I had learned. So, lately we've been living in the whirlwind -- my mood as exasperated as Alfie's is heightened. Then something clicked. I am not listening. I stopped seeing my dog.

And, now I have a game plan. I will stop and breathe, listen and look until I learn to see her again. And, if I am lucky, she will throw me a bone to reward my efforts.

Halloween Magic

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Sixteen years ago, I set out Trick or Treatin' with my nephew Christian and his mother, Chesne, for Christian's first Halloween. We dressed him as a little pumpkin, all in orange, and he toted a garbage bag, which we managed to fill to the brim with candy.

As a child Halloween was a scary time for me. I'm not sure if the world got nicer, but when I was little you heard stories of razor blades with apples every year, it never felt safe to be out and about, and one year some older kids tried to drown, my sweet, black kitty until one of the girls in their group stopped them. After that most of my Halloweens were spent in the cocoon of my home.

Everything changed when Christian was born. I was an adult now, but I got to enjoy Halloween through a child's eyes and it was magical. At that time, Buffy was our sole pug, but soon Vader followed and as the years passed they joined us Trick or Treatin'. Other nieces and nephews arrived on the scene and so did other pugs, but most years I find myself at Chesne's house for pictures and to see her kids don their costumes and hit the road. I usually meet up with the other nieces and nephews and we have a blast.

This year, unfortunately, I had to take my father to the airport, so I had to miss out on the traditional Halloween fun, but not on Halloween itself. After the airport, the pugs and I (all three of us dressed in matching Rolling Stone tees) managed to catch another Halloween first -- my niece Ellie's first Halloween. She dressed as a cupcake and was decidedly sweet enough to eat.

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We all piled into the car to go Trick or Treatin' in Waterbury and even managed to get egged by a passing youngster. We decided to forgo the crowds and take a ride to the famous Ellie's Pumpkin display in Northfield, Vt. only to discover that it was not on this year. Part of us was disappointed -- we wanted to take pictures of Ellie in front of Ellie's Pumpkin Patch display -- but the other part was happy that we were all together. The magic, it turns out comes from that.

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Jack O' Lantern

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Tonight on the eve of Halloween as the rain fell heavy outside, I decided to carve my Halloween pumpkin with my pugs. I purchased the pumpkin a few weeks ago on a lazy Sunday afternoon spent with my sister-in-law Gretchin. We visited a local pottery studio, snapped some photos and went in search of the perfect pumpkin for me to use as a prop for photographs with my niece Ellie and the pugs.

I didn't really have plans to carve it, but then tonight when I was in a foul mood from stress and work and was surfing Facebook, checking out the carvings of my nieces and nephews, I decided why not join in the Halloween fun. I grabbed my pumpkin from the back stoop, spread out a trash bag and carved away. I tried to make a pug, but ended up creating something that looked closer to a cat if anything, but still I was pleased with the result.

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I lit it and placed it on the floor so the pugs could see. Waffles especially was enamored with it. She even tried to eat it at one point, but in any case returned to it again and again. Alfie, as is her nature, was more cautious. She pranced around on the outskirts of the endeavor, bone sticking out the corner of her mouth like an old stogie. Finally, I took the Jack O' Lantern outside on the backstep where she finally decided to check it out herself. Not sure that she was impressed, but I think Waffles may have been, she kept returning. In the end, I think it lifted all our moods. Pugs, like other dogs, sense our energy and seem to respond. They were excited by my excitement, the newness of the activity, their natural curiosity.

The three of us sat for awhile around our Jack O' Lantern. Waffles in my lap, Alfie resting her head on my thigh as she gnawed away at her bone. Together, we basked in its glow.

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My Dog

Waffles settles in more everyday. She still has her habits from her former life like tipping over trash cans and screeching her banshee scream. She hates to be locked up. But she is growing fatter and prettier and more content. Sometimes, when Alfie plays with her too roughly (Alfie loves to play) she will seek me out and hide in my lap. She looks for me, too, now. Not just for food or to figure out what's up, but for kisses and cuddling. She is becoming more and more my dog.
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Hurricanes

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In honor of Hurricane Sandy, I thought I'd post my own hurricane story. This one first appeared in The Herald of Randolph, 7-20-2006

A Vacationer’s Tale: Hurricane Rita’s Rage Matched by Companion

By Kim J. Gifford

Savvy vacationers know that there are certain unspoken rules. Such rules don’t need to be delineated, because they are obvious. For example, don’t book passage on a sinking ship, avoid erupting volcanoes, and by all means, don’t drive into disaster when others are driving away.

While I have always abided by the first two—they seem relatively straightforward—the third offers some wiggle room. It all hinges on the definition of disaster or the potential for one, I thought. Yet, I soon discovered that my emphasis was wrong—forget about qualifying the disaster, much more important to focus on the fact that everyone is driving away from it.

Yet, last fall in the process of obtaining this wisdom, I broke this third rule and traveled with my friend Joan to San Antonio, Texas just as Hurricane Rita was about to touch down. Not a wise move under any circumstance, but consider that Hurricane Katrina had devastated New Orleans only weeks before.

People were scared, uncertain where the new threat might hit, and evacuating probable site Houston for San Antonio in droves. Thus, even if Rita missed our route, the likelihood of us meeting chaos at our destination was good, really good.

Already, many of the Katrina victims had migrated to the Lone Star State, so even before this new scenario, San Antonio was not the best location for travelers; many of the hotels already booked with evacuees. Now we were hearing of the possibility of gasoline shortages and the need to stock up on bottled water.

Still we were undaunted. Joan had a son in Marshall, Texas, who could keep us informed. Driving almost straight through from Vermont, we were to leave on Friday, Sept. 23 and arrive in San Antonio on Monday the 26th.

The hurricane was supposed to touch ground on Sunday, so the way we figured it there would be plenty of time to assess the damage and reroute or turn around before getting into any trouble. After all, this wasn’t an ordinary pleasure trip. We had a reason for our journey—the 2005 Pug Dog National Specialty, the top-of-the-line, annual dog show geared specifically for pugs. We were bringing three: Lumpi, a splashy fawn making his debut; The Big Mamoo, a black; and Beau Diddley, a veteran fawn taking his last bow in the ring.

Now, anyone who knows me can attest I’m not exactly adventuresome. I always carry an umbrella and am the last one to head out in a snowstorm. I like situations that are predictable, controllable. Even on this trip, I was the good Girl Scout, storing six-packs of water, rain gear, and extra canned food in the storage compartment mounted on the top of Joan’s Dodge Caravan.

"Be prepared" may have been my motto, but in all my planning, I neglected to realize that storms sometimes move in from unexpected fronts.

Setting Sail

I learned that lesson when we broke another one of those traveler rules: Don’t set sail on a voyage with someone you barely know. Joan had decided to invite a friend, Bonnie, from New Jersey, a psychic who had visited for a day or two once or twice before. Good, another driver to spot us, I thought, and a psychic at that. Maybe she might have some insight into the outcome of this adventure. Yes, Bonnie wanted to come, but could she bring her dogs?

She arrived the morning of our departure, a blonde Fran Drescher from the sitcom "The Nanny," complete with a "New Joisey" accent to rival the actress’s own.

"Hurricane Bonnie?" I wondered, as she whirled in with coffeemaker, Swiss chocolate, air mattress, and two dogs that were decidedly not pugs to attend the Pug Dog Nationals.

As I scanned for a weather station on the radio and packed emergency gear, she set up a luxury suite for herself in the back seat. She sported shorts and sandals while I slipped on knee-high rain boots and wondered if Joan had any floatation devices for the pugs.

Oblivious to my concerns, Joan hopped in the driver’s seat whistlin’ Dixie and merrily honking the horn. Bonnie hadn’t heard anything much about a hurricane, but had some conspiracy theories to share on the Kennedy assassination and the death of Princess Di. Perhaps her psychic abilities only worked in reverse, detecting trouble in the past. Suddenly, I began to have some premonitions of my own. Still, I remained in the car breaking my own rule: It’s okay to bail ship.

A day into the trip, Bonnie’s dogs disclosed their personalities. One yelped, the other peed; both had chronic diarrhea. Bonnie begged for pit stops, Joan refused to give them. Joan drove when she should have been sleeping, Bonnie slept when she should have been driving. I spent my time refereeing and calling home for updates on Hurricane Rita.

Our Private Hurricane

The fourth-most intense Atlantic hurricane ever recorded, Rita made landfall on Sept. 24 at the Louisiana-Texas border, our exact point of entry into the state. Although she had landed a good day-and-a-half before our arrival in Texas, reports told of damage, flash flooding, downed power lines, and even tornados along our path. I envisioned the Caravan twirling around in the sky like Dorothy’s house, five dogs’ heads hanging out the windows, pugs’ eyes bulging.

Family suggested extending our travel time and choosing another route into Texas. Too late. As we approached Memphis—the home of Elvis Presley—rain was heavy, but any change would be backtracking and Joan was not hearing of that.

Not to be deterred from our sightseeing, we did a drive-by past the gates of Graceland and considered stopping for dinner. The rain was pounding so hard we missed the turn into the restaurant, got lost and found ourselves headed back in the wrong direction. The Caravan was hot and humid, tempers even hotter.

As Hurricane Rita became less severe, the storm inside the car intensified. Bonnie wanted to tour the whole of Graceland. Joan hoped to beat Rita’s wake. We should have opted for a nap. After two days non-stop on the road, not one of us was sound enough to be making any decisions.

The radio claimed the storm, complete with tornados, would reach Arkansas, the state ahead of us, by 7 p.m.

"Well, if we’re not stopping at Graceland, let’s keep driving. We should be in Arkansas before 7," Bonnie suggested.

"Why do we want to drive into the storm?" I inquired. My companions conceded, taking a hotel room for a few hours and just in the knick of time.

As the winds picked up, I donned my raincoat and began to move the dog crates into the hotel. A strong gust suddenly shoved me and the dog crate I was carrying, complete with a 22-pound pug, across the parking lot as if we were a feather. As I made my way back, Joan and Bonnie, now soaking wet, stared at my rain slicker in wonder.

"Whatever made you think to pack that?"

I rolled my eyes just as Joan let out a yelp. "Something’s the matter with Beau Diddley!"

Pugs are a brachycephalic breed, meaning their flat faces and small nostrils make it difficult to breathe and easy to succumb to heat and humidity. All the time in the hot car had led Beau to begin suffering a heat stroke.

"Get him inside, cool him down quickly. Put him in the bathtub and turn the air-conditioner on," one of them shouted.

"Don’t cool him too rapidly and keep him out of the cold air," the other contradicted.

I stood frozen, scared for the dog and wondering how much it would cost to book a flight back to Vermont. "I want to go home," I announced.

Joan and Bonnie appeared shocked. "Stop being such a baby," Bonnie said. Apparently, I had no idea how to enjoy a vacation!

Fortunately, Beau survived, welcoming the bath and remaining in the doorway to the bathroom, where the cool air from the air-conditioner reached him, but not too directly.

It seems the art of good travel is compromise.

At an Arkansas gas station the next morning, we learned just how close those tornados had come, one breezing through our path only 20 minutes ahead of us. Disaster averted, we made our way to San Antonio where the Big Mamoo earned a 4th place finish in his class and our newcomer and old-timer did us proud by simply making it around the ring.

It would be nice to say we had broken the rules, beaten the odds and walked away from the journey consummate travelers with a good tale to tell, yet, when it comes to vacationing there are always new lessons to learn. Before returning home, for example, we discovered roof-mounted cargo carriers and parking garages don’t mix. You’d think it wouldn’t take a psychic to realize that.

My Pretty Girls

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Waltham's I.W. Waffles

I set out to take some Halloween shots of my girls this week with various degrees of success. Here are two portraits that I liked. The girls couldn't be any different. Alfie is only three weeks older than Waffles, but Waffles is significantly smaller. Alfie is a showdog, Waffles is not. Waffles is spayed, Alfie is not. Waffles can jump up on the bench seats at the kitchen table. Alfie cannot. Alfie loves to taunt Waffles with her bones. Waffles could care less. Waffles loves to flaunt her toys, Alfie doesn't really care. Alfie likes to pee on the bath mat in the bathroom, Waffles likes to tip over the bathroom trash can. Waffles will sometimes sit still for pictures, Alfie never will. Alfie slips out of her harness when going for a walk, Waffles slips out of her harness in the car. Both like their breakfast, going for car rides, and visiting the dog park. Alfie's real name is NW Elvis' Birthday Girl. Waffles' real name is Waltham's I.W. Waffles. Alfie had two sisters and so did Waffles. Alfie came to me from a breeder in New York state after Mira died. Waffles came to me from my friend Joan after Vader died. Both like to curl up with me on the sofa at night. And, finally both are very beautiful.

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NW Elvis's Birthday Girl

And, more on dog hair...

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You know when you mention something and then suddenly you start encountering it everywehre? Well, that's what happened to me with dog hair today. My dogs are with me all the time and they travel with me everywhere, yet, suddenly yesterday I became obsessed with the dog hiar I found in my car. Not sure what triggered it, but once the cat was out of the bag I couldn't put it back in and today, I was finding pug hair everywhere.
I went to put on a pair of jeans I had worn the day before. My jeans are always too long so I usually have to roll them up to wear them. I went to adjust the cuff when out fell a pocketful of dog hair, pretty gross considering the jeans had only been worn once and washed prior to that.
Next, I went to wash the afghan that sits on the end of my bed. I put it in the wash, no problem. Then into the dryer. When I went back down to the cellar to take it out and fold it, I noticed a problem. Not only was there still pug hair in the weave of the afghan, but it was also completely covering the lint trap. I had enough to sell it off as wool.
So, if anyone's interested I know where I can find you an abundant supply of pug hair, perhaps enough for a winter's coat.

And, this is how dog lovers get ready for a concert...

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Yesterday I was supposed to meet my friend Sheila at 4:30 p.m. in Montpelier, about a 45-minute drive from my house, to attend the Brandi Carlile concert. At 3:50 p.m. I went out to my car, put the key in the ignition and stopped. I couldn't go get Sheila in this vehicle it smelled decidedly doggie.
 I quickly realized that the two doggie car seats in the back of the car didn't help, so I unbuckled them, took off the two loops that attach to the seat belts and carried them one at a time into the house. Then I went back to the car to see if the smell was any better. It was, but the site wasn't. The backseat was caked with dog hair.

Up until a few months ago I had a lovely vinyl car seat cover. I say lovely because it brushed off with ease and even though the pugs travel with me a lot, my car managed to maintain a semblance of cleanliness and decorum. Then, on a rare trip with Joan in my car as opposed to her van, her constant traveling companion Mister Egg had an accident on my seat cover and even though it was vinyl and washed right up, the smell just didn't seem to leave. I threw out the seat cover and bought another. The problem was the car store didn't have an identical replacement. As a result, I had to make due with a fancy car seat cover with suede patches that act just like dog hair magnets. Now, instead of a few stray hairs here and there, the back seat of my car looked like it might be transforming into a pug itself.

I remember when my brother first brought home his pug Buffy. The breeder had told him pugs never shed. It took only a few short days to realize that she was being sarcastic.

Anyway, my backseat, now affectionately dubbed Fido, looked like it needed a grooming and rather than take off and meet Sheila at the appointed time, I decided to give it to her. I went in search of a vacuum in the garage. Since it was garbage day, this meant negotiating an obstacle course of trashbags and various other garage paraphernalia to get to the vacuum cleaner, but I did it. I then proceeded to stretch the cord as far as it would go befroe realizing that it would never reach the backseat. After a reverse trip through the the "trashy" obstacle course, I jumped in my car, threw it into reverse, turned the car around and backed up into the driveway. This time the cord reached, but even with my perserverance the vacuum did little to clear all the hairs away. It did, however, tidy Fido's appearance to an acceptable level and 15 minutes later I found myself on the road and my cell calling Sheila. "I would have been earlier I assured her," but I had to vacuum the car. I couldn't be one of those crazy dog people whose car no one wants to be in," I said.

At that point I looked down at my black coat and saw that while cleaning the car I had managed to dirty myself. I now was sporting a second coat of pug fur all over me. "I'll be there soon," I lied, as I pulled over to the side of the road to grab the lint brush from the trunk. If only I had had time to stop for an air freshener...